We are what we believe we are..

Throughout the course of your life, mostly when you were growing up, you sucked in information into your subconscious mind just like a sponge sucks up water. You picked up snippets of conversations, comments, media stories, family values and teachings from your family, peers and the people around you, ultimately creating the world you see from within your mind today. Limiting beliefs that we hold about ourselves and the world around us can lead to limiting behaviours in response. To get to know your true-self, it is important that first you are able to identify which of these self-limiting beliefs are contributing to your lack of self-worth, the feelings of not being good enough as you are.

As we grow, our subconscious minds grow with us. This part of the mind is in charge of over 95% of our daily actions and thought patterns. It controls the beliefs about the world that we hold and the stories that we tell ourselves. Your subconscious mind is vastly powerful!

It comes as no surprise when you see the way the media influences us today that so many of us have subconscious beliefs that tell us that we are not quite acceptable as we are.

A passing comment about your new dress that you took the wrong way, a magazine article about a new diet that created a feeling of guilt or shame about your body shape, a lifetime of hearing people judge you and others on their weight—these have all been stored up, repeatedly strengthened over the years and harbored for so long that you now believe that is a hard fact that you are not good enough as you are.

Whatever you think about most, your subconscious mind will strengthen, just like paths in a field. The well-worn and troddendown paths are the easiest and most likely paths to take; the most common thought patterns that you have in your mind become the easiest ones to repeat. Many of these will be the exact same thoughts you had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before that.

These thoughts and beliefs that exist within your subconscious mind ultimately determine how you live, what you think, what you believe you can and can’t do, what decisions to make and what you hold true about the world around you. Your subconscious mind likes to be proven right so it will readily search outwardly for confirmation of what you already believe to be true. Hence, we often seem to be attracted to the same type of experience, people and feelings repeatedly over the course of our lives. You are subconsciously seeking out affirmations which conform to the beliefs you already hold. Your subconscious acts like your own internal Sat Nav; its job is to keep you on the path that it already knows. In other words, it’s directing you continuously back into your comfort zone. Whether that comfort zone is useful, true or beneficial to you, it doesn’t care. It’s just believing what you have taught it to believe, like a mirror reflecting back to you the thoughts you have fed it. Your subconscious cannot distinguish between what is real and what isn’t.

Of course, this can create massive problems when your subconscious beliefs are all to do with how you are not worthy enough, not slim enough or not pretty enough. Because of how your subconscious mind works, if you were to try and show up for the rest of your life as your true-self, without first exploring ways in which you can change these beliefs, you might find it difficult because you would effectively be going up against your own subconscious beliefs that tell you the protection of a false-self is needed in order to be accepted. Your subconscious will continue to run the scripts that have convinced you that you are not good enough, thus making it hard for you to ever really achieve, or enjoy, the process of releasing the subconscious shackles that are holding you back in your life.

Did you choose your identity consciously, or is it the sum total of what other people have told you, significant events in your life, and other factors that occurred without your awareness or approval? If you were to begin to define yourself differently, in a way that’s more empowering an accurate for who you are today, how would you describe who you’ve become?  Tony Robbins.

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You’re either with us or against us!

I recently heard about a little girl being bullied, the daughter of someone I know. She’d been called “fat” by another girl who lived on her road. She is 5. Yes, FIVE.YEARS.OLD and most certainly not fat, even if she was, should a 5 year old even understand what it means to be called “fat”?

Kids can so cruel, but to be fair they are often just repeating what they have learnt from the elders around them, somewhere in her 5 short years she had been taught that a) to be skinny is good and b) to judge (and bully) other girls on how they look is normal.

Cue that very first seed planted, for the rest of her entire life she’ll be believing “I don’t look good enough as I am”.

Not just for the girl on the receiving end, this is a seed planted in both of the girls – to be the judger or the judgee, the effect is the same.


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Please Miss, can I have some more?

What is it about being a woman that sees us feeling the need to have permission for everything we do?

We are “allowed” to eat a piece of cake so long as our friends do too. We can’t be the only one to say yes or we fear being seen as greedy.

We are “allowed” take a day off from the gym so long as our husband / coach / friend confirms to us that’s ok to not work out today. If we dared to make that choice ourselves, we’d spend the day feeling guilt ridden and lazy.


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It’s All About Feeling Awesome! As Long As Awesome Looks Good In The Photos…

I know I know, you are already thinking “Ah man, not another weight-loss-club bashing blog” and yep I wouldn’t blame you if you were, there are tonnes of blogs out there calling out these clubs / supplements / fad-type-diets, every day. So, yep I get it, you don’t need to see another one telling you what you already know.

However, my blog is still about these clubs. But not JUST these clubs, I’m also going to include every other weight loss promoting diet/club/PT out there as well.

About 5 years ago I recall I got shouted at by someone I was learning from, I uttered the words “weight loss” and I was chastised for not instead saying “fat loss” to be specific. Since then this fat loss message seems to have spread ten fold and it seems to have been lapped up and made into FB meme’s and PT straplines all over the shop.

Great, this is great – truly it is.

But I just don’t believe that it’s really sunk in. Or, rather – it HAS sank in, but continues to be contradicted again and again……by the folks who said it in the first place.

Confused? Bear with me and read on..


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