The Master of Change..

As you may or may not know, I have spent the last 16 years – my entire career in fact – working as a coach in the fitness and nutrition industry, which was totally amazing and as I’ve written about so many times, I loved every minute of it (most minutes..) and worked my ass into the ground for it. However, things changed a lot for me in the last few years. I went through a huge transition as a coach, had a mini-meltdown (or meltdown-SS I should say) that if you followed or knew me then you may or may not have had the pleasure in witnessing! I burnt-out, lost faith in the industry, wanted to quit, cried a lot and basically realised that what I was doing just wasn’t fitting right with me any more. Subsequently, I stood back, reassessed, and decided to go back to school again to become a student of psychology, I just knew that there was so much more needed in order to truly help my clients than these diet plans and training programmes I’d become so stifled by, and as a result, I also began to completely change how I worked as a coach.  So as a consequence of that one, incredibly busy, and slightly (well, a lot) scary year, here I am having now settled into a more specific area of coaching, an area that has become my ‘niche’ so to speak, and that is mindset coaching. So naturally, people have been asking me about what this means.

Well, your mindset is built from the beliefs that you hold about yourself, and these beliefs hold the key to absolutely everything in your life: what you do, what you don’t do, why you do what you do, why you can’t do what you want to do, why you think you shouldn’t do something and why you think you should.

 

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Please Miss, can I have some more?

What is it about being a woman that sees us feeling the need to have permission for everything we do?

We are “allowed” to eat a piece of cake so long as our friends do too. We can’t be the only one to say yes or we fear being seen as greedy.

We are “allowed” take a day off from the gym so long as our husband / coach / friend confirms to us that’s ok to not work out today. If we dared to make that choice ourselves, we’d spend the day feeling guilt ridden and lazy.

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When You Had The Chance…

“Have you ever sailed across an ocean, Donald? On a sailboat surrounded by sea with no land in sight, without even the possibility of sighting land for days to come? To stand at the helm of your destiny?

I want that one more time.

I want to be in the Piazza del Campo in Siena, to feel the surge as ten racehorses go thundering by.

I want another meal in Paris at L’Ambroisie  in the place des Vosges.

I want another bottle of wine and then another.

I want the warmth of a woman in the cool set of sheets.

One more night of jazz at the Vanguard.

I want to stand on summits and smoke Cubans and feel the sun on my face for as long as I can.

Walk on the Wall again.

Climb the Tower.

Ride the River.

Stare at the frescos.

I want to sit in the garden and read one more good book.

Most of all I want to sleep. I want to sleep like I slept when I was a boy.

Give me that. Just one time.

That’s why I won’t allow that punk out there to get the best of me, let alone the last of me.”

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Live Today As If You Liked Yourself

What would it mean to live a day as though you liked yourself?

We are in so much hate with ourselves these days. You may disagree with this idea, but I bet your thoughts would tell you different. Imagine if I gave you an internal tape recorder for a week to tape your internal dialogue, then asked you to play all your negative self-thoughts back to yourself before you went to sleep each night, I bet it’d be pretty harsh.

It sucks. So, how have we got like this? The promotion of peace, love and kindness builds around us externally as we all constantly give our opinion on how the love seems to have been lost in our world. We say the words and we tell ourselves that we mean it, we pat each other on the back and share the inspiring “be you” quotes and memes, but then just continue on this self-hate destruction path secretly, with no one knowing that our thoughts towards ourselves are still full of hate..

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